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How to Use a Vibrator for Men

How to Use a Vibrator (for Men)



Yes, it's true, men can use vibrators too!  There is a common misconception that vibrators are only for women, but this is far from the truth.  There are many vibrators designed specifically for the male body and a mans pleasure in mind.  Vibrators are also not made for men or women of any specific sexual orientation (this is another common myth.) In fact, vibrators are for anyone that enjoy solo play, partner sex, or discovering new ways to experience sexual pleasure. Mens vibrators come in many different shapes, sizes and types; you'll find everything from realistic vibrating vaginas , to discreet vibrating egg like shapes, to the large realistic phallic-looking vibrating dildos.  Whatever it is you desire... you're likely to find it available to purchase online. Vibrators can help men experience a sense of variety as well as discover heightened sensations and orgasms they never knew existed. For those men willing to take a walk on the wild side, here are some how to tips for using your vibrator, as well as some recommendations for some popular mens vibrators you can find right here at Best of Adult Toys.com:


1.  Get mentally ready to explore:

You may have never considered a vibrator for pleasure, so give yourself the time needed to get comfortable with the idea.  Remember that vibrators and sex toys are designed with nerve stimulation in mind and they are simply a pleasure aid.  Using a vibrator doesn’t say anything about you other than the fact that you love yourself; you are perhaps a little adventurous and that you prefer to have a healthy and active sex life. 

2.  Find the vibe that's right for you:

There are literally 1000's of vibrators on the market, and that in itself can be intimidating.  If you've never used a vibrator before, do a quick check in with yourself to explore what features you might be interested.  Would you be more interested in size, power, or features such as rechargeable, remote control, or waterproof? Are you wanting a vibrator that's completely discreet looking (like a vibrating pen or brush) or perhaps something that's somewhat discreet and can be used for solo play and / or with a partner like the We-Vibe II (for couples).   There are many options to consider, so having a general idea of what you are looking for is always helpful before attempting to shop online.  Many website's feature search tools on their website in which you can type in related keywords to match with products in their store.  Knowning what keywords always helps, so if you are looking for men's vibrators you might want to try searching for terms they would be found under such as:

  • prostate stimulator
  • prostate vibrator
  • mens vibrator
  • mens g spot vibrators
  • mens p spot vibrators
  • anal vibrators
  • anal vibes
  • vibrating vaginas
  • vibrating pussy
  • vibrating masturbators
  • vibrating sleeves
  • vibrators for men

If you know the specific brand or product name you can also include that to search (e.g. Topco Wildfire Scorpion Stinger Vibrator ) to find specific results for that product.

If you are interested in a specific size of vibrator, common related search terms are:

  • small vibes
  • small vibrators
  • mini vibes
  • mini vibrators
  • large vibrator
  • etc. 

If you also have a preference for the texture or material the vibrator is made from, try searching for that too.  Common materials are "cyberskin" "pleasure skin" "real feel" as well as "phthalate free" and "silicone vibrators."

3. Getting to know each other:

Once you've purchased your vibrator there are a few things you'll want to do first.  Always read the instructions first.  This is important because there many be special considerations or cleaning care instructions you'll need to be aware of.  For example, did you know that you can't use a silicone lube with a silicone vibrator?  It's true. You must always use a water-based lubricant with a silicone based vibe.  Many other types of mens vibrators (like sleeves) require special care and cleaning, so pay close attention to the recommendations on the packaging. 

The second thing you'll want to make sure of is that you have batteries. Seems like a no-brainer, but often vibrators are sold without batteries, so make sure to have them on hand.  Once you have your vibrator out of it's packaging, test it right away to ensure that it's working. Many vibrators come with a manufacturers guarantee.   Play with the vibrator buttons and switches and get familiar with it's speeds and settings. 

Before using your vibrator, you'll want to ensure to wash it with warm water and soap or an anti-bacterial toy cleanser. Also check whether or not the vibrator is waterproof or not.  If your vibrator is labelled as "waterproof" than it is okay to submerse it in water.  If labelled "splashproof" this means that it's not submersable, but okay to use in the shower or run under a tap for cleaning purposes.  If not labelled as waterproof, don't take any chances. It's likely not waterproof, unless it's labelled as such.

3.  The warm up:

It’s always a good idea to try your vibrator out the first time by yourself. You'll feel less conscious and more open to exploring and discovering what you like and what you don't like.  You'll also be able to talk to your partner with confidence about how to use it, or with regards to showing or explaining what you like.  Make sure to have your lube, as well as a clean towel or tissue on hand. Give yourself time to explore and a little privacy is always a good thing. If you’ve got roommates, children, or thin walls with nosey neighbors, either wait until you're home alone, or make sure to lock your door, close the blinds and turn on some music or make use of blankets to mute out any sound.  Many vibrators are designed to be silent or near silent. Check the product description before you buy, if this is of concern for you.

4.  Watch n' Learn.

One of the best ways to learn about yourself and your new vibrator or sex toy is to watch and learn with the lights on or in front of a mirror.  The brain is for both men and women the largest sex organ and visual stimulation will help you enjoy your new toy all the more. It can also be educational in that you'll discover specific places on your body that are sensitive to the stimulation. Explore all parts of your body with your new toy and don't be afraid to apply pressure to gage your levels of pleasure. All this information is useful for yourself and your partner (should you wish to share the experience.)


5.   Don’t rush: Take time to explore.

The great thing about vibrators is that they never get tired, and they can be used to explore every inch of your body for sexual pleasure. There are many parts of a man’s body (other than the penise) that are capable of experiencing intense sexual pleasure. Using a vibrator is a great way to explore and discover them. Think of yourself as Captain of your own pirate ship out to explore and discover hidden treasure. 


8.  Play with the speed of the vibrator.

Because men tend to use a lot of friction when they masturbate, stronger vibrators are often needed, particular around the genitals. But when exploring other parts of your body, always start on a low setting and work your way up. Particularly with anal vibrators, even a slight change in the speed of the vibrator can be felt, and playing with the speed settings can be highly pleasurable.

9. Play with pressure.

Experiment with applying different pressure. It might not feel good to press very hard around the scrotum, but if you put your vibrator on the perineum and apply deep pressure you are stimulating the prostate externally. Some men find that with a strong enough vibrator and enough pressure, using a vibrator on the head of the penis will give them an orgasm without ever moving the vibrator. Experiment with everything from a feather light touch to a self-love smack down -- find what works for you.

10.  External vs. internal vibration.

Hard plastic and electric vibrators are the best for external stimulation as they are stronger and more comfortable to use externally. You can use these vibrators for external anal stimulation as well. If you want to explore anal penetration with a vibrator it’s recommended that you either get an anal attachment for your electric vibrator or buy a separate vibrator that is safe for anal use. You may find vibrators made of silicone or other softer materials are more comfortable for anal penetration. Always use a water based lubricant for any penetration play.

11. External anal stimulation.

The anus (the part on the outside that you can see and touch) is rich with nerve endings and usually responds favorably to stimulation. As mentioned above, start slowly and work from the inside out. See what the vibrator feels like on your lower back, your bum, and your inner thighs. Move slowly and gently to the anus and start by applying just a little pressure. You can roll the edge of the vibrator around the area and experiment with pressure and speed as you go. Once they get over the newness of the feeling many men find this highly pleasurable.

12.  Anal penetration with a vibrator.

Anal penetration requires patience, arousal, and a lot of lubricant. Start slow and get yourself fully aroused by using the vibrator externally first. Don’t force an anal toy inside your body. Instead, with the vibrator on, just leave the tip at the opening of the anus and let the toy slide in gently when your body is ready. Once inside you can move the vibrator around and also play with the speed of the vibrator. Tilting the vibrator toward your belly button will stimulate the prostate. You may have to add more lubricant depending on how long your play lasts.

13.  Using your vibrator with a partner.

You can use your vibrator with your partner in any number of ways. You can control the vibe and use it on yourself. You and your partner can use it on each other. There are vibrators that fit over the penis for use during partner penetration play. You can also find a vibrator that fits well between you and your partner that neither of you need to control, but can add stimulation during sex. However you want to do it, it’s a good idea for each of you to follow the above steps first, and get fully comfortable on your own before making it a threesome.

Mens Vibrator Tips:

1.  Prostate massagers
Some vibrators are better suited for prostate massage than others. Vibrators that aren’t too big, and have a gentle curve tend to work well. Some men like the feeling of pressure alone on the prostate and will use a vibrator but keep it turned off. Others enjoy the feeling of vibration and pressure. Remember to use lots of lubricant and only toys that are safe for anal penetration.

2.  Be patient.
Many men are used to sex play that involves a lot of quick rubbing and stimulation. Vibrators give you the chance to try something completely different. Even if you find the vibe doesn’t drive you to the heights of orgasm immediately, give it chance. Find a place on your body where the vibration feels good and leave the vibrator there for a minute or two. Apply pressure and let the vibrations go deeper into your body. You may be surprised by the results.

3.  Take your batteries out.
Get in the habit of taking your batteries out of the vibrator each time your finished using it. If you leave the batteries in the vibe may turn on to a very low speed (or you may leave it on low without knowing it) and this can both burn out the motor and make for some embarrassing moments when everyone at dinner is wondering where that buzzing is coming from. Also, if you leave your vibrator alone for extended periods with the batteries in, they can corrode and leak into the battery case destroying your vibrator.

4.  Anal vibrator safety.
Don’t share sex toys unless you use a condom every time. If you’re playing with a female partner never let a sex toy that has been in the rectum go in the vagina. Always use water based lubricant when using a vibrator for anal penetration. You can put some lube on the shaft of the vibrator and with your fingers put some lube on the outside and just inside the anus. Replenish the lubricant on the vibrator throughout the sex play.